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My Child Wants to Ride Horses, Where Do I Start?
Its happened. Your daughter wants to ride horses. Maybe she saw someone in a movie, or she found some old copies of The Saddle Club, but theres no escaping it now. She needs to ride a horse, and she might literally die if she doesnt. My brother just went through this, forced to enter the world of horses, with me screaming advice and cheering on his daughter.Im about to do the same for you.How do you navigate this new world?Well, I can tell you what you shouldnt do: Dont go ask that one person you know with horses if your child can come ride. Its a long standing joke in the horse world, weve all been asked, and we almost never want someone to come ride our personal horses. All horses are not the same, and personal horses are almost never suitable for beginners. Its not personal, we just dont want anyone hurt.Instead, follow these steps:Find a Qualified InstructorNote: In horse world, instructor and trainer can be used somewhat interchangeably. An instructor teaches riding lessons, and a trainer trains horses, but can also train people.One of the problems, or possibly advantage, of the horse world in America is that literally anyone can call themselves a horse trainer. This is great for aspiring riders who truly have a strong base of knowledge and want to pass it on, BUT its also the worst because people who have no qualifications or knowledge and are also possibly just a terrible person, can also call themselves a trainer. Literally nearly every horse friend I have has a horror story of riding with an unqualified trainer and how it messed with their heads, and left long lasting triggers about some aspect of horses.That means its up to you to do your due diligence in ensuring your daughter goes to a good barn.Where to Find an InstructorPersonal recommendations is a great way to find an instructor. One of the best places to ask is on your local Facebook group, especially if you find a horse themed local Facebook group. You may be able to find a smaller (i.e. cheaper) barn who just gets kids started. If the kids stick with it, they can move to a more advanced barn.There are also organizations that will help you get started:The United States Equestrian Federation website, where theres a whole list of registered and qualified instructors.The United States Pony Club is a great organization for children to learn about horses, and they have riding centers with qualified instructors.Ask for a Trial LessonYou found your instructor. Now ask for a trial lesson. Dont be convinced to buy a lesson package without doing a trial first. If your daughter doesnt like it, youre either out a lot of money, or locked in at some place you dont like.The trial isnt just to make sure your daughter likes the horses, but also to make sure you actually like the instructor, the location, the setting, any staff, or even just the general vibe. Horse riding is too expensive to spend your money at the wrong place, and theres no reason to commit to a place you dont like.Heres what you should talk about on the initial phone call (and yes, please make it a phone call, not a text conversation.)Ask about:Can you tell me about your lesson horses? (You want to hear safe, bombproof, babysitter, gentle, or confidence building.)Can you tell me how you usually structure your first lesson? What should they expect to learn? (This will vary by instructor, but you should be expecting your student to learn some basic horse handling on the ground, how to mount and dismount, and basic controls including walk, halt, and turn.)Can you tell me what to expect about the rate of progression in your students? How soon are they trotting? How soon are they cantering? When do you introduce jumping? (Instructors should be challenging the student, but not at a scary pace. Students should have independent control of the horse at each stage before the horse moves faster or does more complicated moves.)Do you provide group or private lessons? (There is a benefit to both formats. Children tend to enjoy group lessons because they will make friends with the other children. Private lesson do provide more personalized instruction, but typically the lesson is much shorter and its more expensive.)Do students groom and tack up their horses? (Ideally yes, since they should learn about horsemanship. They may not the first few times as they will be in the learning stages.)Do you take your students to shows? Do you take students on trail rides or on any outings? (I personally dont care about showing, but many people do, so if your child wants to show, you should ask. I do think its important for students to learn how to ride outside a ring though, so ask if your instructor ever takes them out of the ring.)Now lets talk about how to prepare for your first lesson.How to Prepare for the LessonYour new instructor will have likely given you this information (and if they didnt, thats a red flag) but your student needs to arrive at their lesson with a riding helmet and boots with a small heel. Sometimes the instructor will provide a helmet to borrow, but it is a major red flag if your instructor says you can ride in sneakers.Why do you need riding boots to ride horses?Riding boots are designed for protection. The stiff leather protects feet from being crushed if a horse steps on them. Chances are, this will happen at some point, my horse stepped on my foot about a month ago. Horses usually weigh 1000 lbs or more, so thats a lot of weight to be on a foot. Ive seen the serious feet injuries, dont take any chances on something so preventable.When you are mounted, the small heel stops the boot from sliding right through the stirrup. Riders have been dragged by getting their feet caught in stirrups, with sometimes fatal consequences. Take it seriously, and get a boot with a little heel.Its important to note that fashion boots are NOT riding boots. Do not ride in boots you found at DSW or the mall. They are not the same, as fashion boots are usually made with flimsy materials that do not provide any protection (and honestly they look weird and out of place at the barn. Even if they are $800 designer boots that call themselves riding boots, no self respecting rider is going to wear them to the barn). Riding boots are made differently, so go with actual riding boots.You need to go to a tack store or order them from an online retailer. Tack stores include Dover Saddlery, SmartPak, or there may be independent stores in your area. TuffRider Childrens Starter Front Zip Paddock Boots, Mocha, 3Dover Saddlery Riding Sport Kids Provenance Zip Paddock Boots, Size: 3, Color: BlackHorse Riding HelmetsYou need to protect your childs head. Do not trust any place that allows you to ride without a helmet, they do not have your childs best interests in mind. Everyone will fall eventually, horses stumble, and sometimes they are just straight up naughty. A helmet greatly reduces injuries. Do not take risks with your childs head.Helmets are pretty cheap, so theres really no reason to not buy one. Even if your instructor can loan you one, its better to get your own, as they should be replaced after every fall, or at the most, every five years. Chances are your instructor is probably in a void with no concept of time so she likely doesnt remember when the helmets were purchased. This is normal for riding instructors, they are frequently lost in the void of time (you get used to it.).When buying a helmet, make sure it is ASTM F1163-15 and SEI Certified. There are a lot of fake helmets on Amazon, so just be wary of what you purchase. Troxel, Ovation, TuffRider, International Riding Helmets (IRH), Tipperary, and Charles Owen are all trustworthy helmet brands. For a beginner riding helmet, go with Troxel, Ovation or TuffRider, the price point just makes more sense.TuffRider Starter Basic Equestrian Horse Riding Helmet Black MediumTroxel Sport 2.0 Injection Molded Horse Riding Helmet, Lightweight Adjustable Design, Safety Horseback Riding Gear, Extra Small (6-1/4-6-1/2), MintWhat Your Child Should Wear for Their Horse Riding LessonFor the first lesson, jeans with a bit of stretch or leggings are fine. Any shirt is fine, although coverage is good, as horses and barns are pretty dirty, so kids will end up pretty dirt. In fact, keep that in mind, whatever you put on them is going to get dirty.You really dont need to invest a lot into riding gear to start with. Make sure your child actually likes it. If your child does like it, riding leggings with grips and sunshirts for summer, or thermal shirts for winter, are great for lessons without spending a ton of money.FitsT4 Sports Girls Horse Riding Pants Full Seat Silicone Kids Equestrian Breeches Horseback Pockets Youth Schooling Tights Navy X-SmallHarrison Howard Kids Equestrian Breeches Girls Knee-Patch Horse Riding Pants Schooling Tights Stretchy Performance Riding Tights for Kids Pinkish Orange SmallSunshirtFitsT4 Sports Girls Long Sleeves Shirts Thumbhole English Horse Riding Shirt UPF50 Quick Dry Kids Equestrain Half Zip Jacket Pink SmallThermal Shirtberoy Girls Fleece Long Sleeve Shirts Half Zip Equestrain Shirt Thermal Kids Horse Riding Shirts Thumbhole Pockets(Beige,L)SunscreenHorses are generally ridden outside. Theres a lot of sun. The sand reflects light up on your childs face. Dont forget your sunscreen.Show how serious you are about skin protection by getting this hilariously oversized tub of Sunscreen. But you could also just use normal sunscreen, thats fine, too.Going to Your LessonThe day has finally come. Your daughter is thrilled, and youre about to embark on a whole new adventure with her. Its the start of a great era, I promise you.Youll show up, and your instructor, or possibly an enthusastic teenage girl, will be there to guide you through the whole process. There shouldnt be any moments where youre completely lost or feeling abandoned. Your daughter should have all the guidance to make this a wonderful experience, and theres probably a chair for you to sit on and watch. This should all feel very easy.I say all this because its extremely common for students to end up with bad instructors and feel like they are stuck at a barn. You arent stuck. If something doesnt feel right, go to another barn. Theres no reason to stay with a bad instructor, or someone who makes you feel uncomfortable, has horses that look over worked or underfed, or someone who screams at students. Dont stay at this barn. Theres too many nice ones to waste time and money at a bad one.If you have a feeling in your gut that something isnt right, act on it. Ask online, directly confront your instructor about it, or you can even email me, Ill tell you if its weird. Dont get stuck at a bad barn. This is supposed to be an enjoyable experience, not something stressful or uncomfortable.The days of drill instructor style instruction are over, especially at the beginner level. If you choose to do that when youre training for the Olympics, thats your decision. But no child should be screamed at because they are learning.So if it feels wrong, dont just wonder, ask about it. There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation, or you could be uncovering the plot of crime drama. Sometimes it can be hard to say with horse people.But your daughter should be having a great time. If she isnt, find somewhere else.If she is having a great time, youve done it. Well done. Congratulations! Youre now involved with an incredible sport that will take over your entire life!Its worth it, I promise.Eventually, this could be your daughter.Further Resources for the New RiderA once a week lesson often isnt enough for the budding equestrian. They crave more horses. So you, as the most amazing parent to exist, can impress your daughter with more horse time.There are clubs she can join United States Pony Club is the gold standard for learning horsemanship, with many professional riders having been through it. 4-H is a more casual riding club, you may have to google 4-H horse Your State to find the horse clubs.Although its impossible to learn feel without being on an actual horse, theres online learning resources, such as Noelle Floyd and Equestrian Coach that allow riders to learn principles that they can apply to their riding. If your daughter ends up with a horse of her own, it may be an even more valuable resource to have on hand.Theres also books, with my personal favorite being The United States Pony Club Manual of Horsemanship. It is all the basics riders should know to become good horseman. You could fall into a wormhole of horse books on every conceivable topic, but the basics are so important, and the building blocks of everything.Your daughter should be on her way to a great future with horses now. Enjoy the journey and let it happen organically. These are core memories she will remember for the rest of her life.Happy trails!The post My Child Wants to Ride Horses, Where Do I Start? appeared first on An Equestrian Life.
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